#89 How to Appreciate Someone

To show appreciation simply means just being as nice and honest as possible to people around you.. I generally belief that each one of us has at least one ,a few or alot of good qualities. So when I meet people I try to establish over a period of time what I feel is nice or good about them and 99% of the time I am able to find at least one quality. Now what this does for me is it allows me to appreciate them which produces a good feeling for me. You see….. Rather than thinking the worse things about people around you and developing headaches why not try looking for some good qualities in them at least for your own sanity! And remember sometimes we cannot choose the people we hang around day in day out i.e. work colleagues or family.

“Make it a habit to tell people thank you. To express your appreciation, sincerely and without the expectation of anything in return. Truly appreciate those around you, and you’ll soon find many others around you. Truly appreciate life, and you’ll find that you have more of it”

#88 Merit of Community

There is another level of safety in numbers. Namely, being part of a Jewish community. Whether it be a synagogue congregation, a yeshivah or chesed organization, active membership in the Jewish people can also be a life-saving association.

When Elisha offered to speak to the king for the Shunammite woman, she demurred, saying, "I dwell among my people." (Kings 2:4:13.) The Zohar reveals that "the king" in the verse is an allusion to G-d, the king of the universe, and that she preferred to have her prayers considered with the rest of the community rather than being singled out even by the prophet on her behalf.

The Talmud (Yoma 75b) states that the manna fell for Joshua, "as it did for all of Israel." Why is Joshua singled out? Why should he, the chief disciple of Moses, have been any less deserving of sustenance than the rest of the people?

The answer is that because Joshua had accompanied Moses to the foot of Mount Sinai, where he waited for him to return with the Torah, he was temporarily isolated from the community. Even though it was only a few minutes' walk from Joshua's position to the encampment of the nation, he required a special blessing of manna. Anyone residing with the nation received manna in the collective merit of the many; anyone who was set even slightly apart from the rest, and even though it was for a good reason, needed his own special merit to survive.

Based on this Talmudic passage, Rabbi Chaim Shmuelevitz explained the fate of the members of the Mir Yeshiva, which miraculously survived the Holocaust. "We have seen this with our own eyes," he said. "During the wanderings of the Mir, those who remained with the yeshiva were not harassed---all of them got out safely from the terrible exile---but those who segregated themselves even slightly---those who just went to say goodbye to their families in nearby towns, intending to return immediately---never returned." (from The Rosh Yeshiva by Rav Reuven Grossman, Pp. 82-83.)

What is the power of belonging to a Jewish community? The Jewish people is eternal. In the Torah, we have a promise from G-d that we will never be wholly destroyed. Great calamities may befall us, but a remnant will always survive. Attaching oneself to the Jewish people, or to some significant part of it, means attaching oneself to eternity.

Of course, the safety in numbers depends also on the quality of those numbers, the depth of our connection to others. To the extent that our existence matters to others, will they be affected by whatever happens to us? The extent of their suffering due to our fate serves to mitigate our judgment. So it pays to have good friends, in both senses---people who are righteous and who are close to us.

There are, of course, no guarantees. Only the Almighty knows how to calculate all the merits and debits of our accounts in this world. Only He can decide who shall live and who shall die. But if we know how the system works, we can use that knowledge to increase the odds in our favor. And what, after all, is the cost? Only the effort that goes into making friends. It seems like a small price to pay.

#87 Safety in Numbers

But there is more to it than that. The Rosh, Rabbeinu Asher, advises to never leave off making friends. This sounds a bit peculiar, though. For, if constructive criticism is principally what friends are for, one or two pairs of critical eyes are all that are needed. A crowded social calendar would seem superfluous.

But the more friends the better. Why? Because, in a sense, there is safety in numbers. By that I do not mean that if somebody tries to jump you in the street, you can call on your friends for help. We are talking about friends here, not a gang. Rather, this guideline is based on a deep understanding of the mechanics of justice in the world.

It goes something like this: G-d is the Judge of the world. G-d is also perfect. Therefore, His justice must also be perfect. If so, it is not sufficient that one who breaks the law be punished in exactly the right measure for his transgression; if G-d's justice is to be perfect it must also take into account anyone who suffers indirectly for that individual's punishment.

This is the secret hidden in the verse in Ha'azinu, "The Rock [G-d], His work is perfect, because all His ways are just, a G-d of truth without iniquity, just and right is He." (Deuteronomy 32:4) If it is already established that G-d is perfection, just and right, a G-d of truth," why is it necessary to say that He is "without iniquity"? Rather, it is as we have said, that from G-d's point of view, even the most perfect judgment would be iniquitous if, even indirectly, innocents were caused to suffer.

In G-d's system of justice, there is no such thing as collateral damage. If, for example, a murderer must be given capital punishment, that means that his family and friends (if he has any) will also suffer. Even the mother of a murderer suffers when her son is put to death. Perfect justice demands that she will not suffer bereavement unless she deserves it.

We can already observe this principle at work in the story of Creation. When Adam is told that he will be punished for the sin of eating of the Tree of Knowledge, the first punishment mentioned is that "the earth will be cursed because of you...thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you...in the sweat of your face shall you eat bread..." (Genesis 3:18-19.) Rashi explains that the earth would be cursed in that it would produce cursed things, such as flies, fleas and ants.

Why should the earth be cursed for what Adam had done? Surely, G-d could have found other ways to punish Adam without affecting the earth's productive capacity?

But the truth is that the earth was deserving of punishment, too. For originally the earth had been commanded to grow trees whose bark would have the taste of the fruit. The earth failed to follow the Divine command, however, and instead grew bark without the taste of the fruit. Had the earth not been deserving of a curse, G-d would indeed have found another way to afflict Adam, without affecting the earth. (Rashi, Siftei Chachamim, Levush to Genesis 1:11-12.) Thus, the principle of the perfection of Divine judgment is part of the design of Creation itself.

In the same vein, the rape of Jacob's daughter Dinah (Genesis, Chapter 34) has prompted numerous Torah commentators to ask what Jacob did to deserve this? The best-known is the one posited by Rashi. Earlier in the same chapter, he informs us that Jacob was to be punished for hiding his daughter from the wicked Esau, so that the latter would not try to marry her. Tradition maintains that had Dinah married Esau, her righteousness would have led Esau back onto the true path. Jacob allowed his personal feelings to interfere, indirectly preventing Esau's rehabilitation, and for this he was indirectly punished.

There are numerous other answers offered to the question, but the clear assumption of all the commentaries is that, although Dinah was, of course, the primary victim in the episode, her father also suffered because of it, and so there must be a reason for his suffering, too.

Nor are these purely abstract ideas, relegated to a remote cosmogony and ancient history. They can provide us with a guide for living every day. For by increasing one's circle of friends---good and moral friends---who do not deserve punishment, one is automatically increasing one's own life expectancy, and the quality of life, too.

I remember once waiting at a bus stop when a distinguished Torah scholar that I barely knew spotted me at some distance and called me over to offer me a ride home. When I got in, he explained that when he drives he always looks for opportunities to give people rides. Aside from the kindness involved, he saw it as a form of self-protection. Even if he might not have the merit to arrive home safely, if the person riding with him did, then it would afford him an extra measure of protection. That scholar is still alive, and as far as I know, has been driving for many years without an accident; and he continues giving free rides.

#86 What Friends For

Some of the benefits of friendship are well-known; some, however, are concealed within the workings of the system of Divine justice in the world.

We all know that there is a deep need for companionship. Not for nothing is solitary confinement considered to be among the harshest of punishments. Hardened criminals have been known to break down under the duress of prolonged deprivation of social contact.

But if it were only a matter of staying the pain of loneliness, it would be unnecessary to remind people to make friends. Yet, we find Jewish ethical texts repeatedly exhorting us to make friends. "Acquire for yourself a friend," instructs the Mishna in Avot. "What is the path that a person should adhere to?---A good friend," answers another Mishna in Avot. In Ecclesiastes, the wise King Solomon tells us (4:9), "Two are better than one."

But since the human personality is such that we are all embued with a natural desire for friendship, why should it be necessary for us to be instructed to make friends. Isn't it a little like telling people not to forget to eat? For this we need the wisdom of the Torah?

The answer is manifold. On the simplest level, we are being taught that it is not enough to have friends, one must choose for himself the right kind of friend---"a good friend." Rabbi Ovadia of Bartenura in his commentary to Avot explains that a good friend is one who will offer constructive criticism. People tend to be blind to their own faults. It is necessary to have others who understand us and are concerned enough about our welfare to tell us when we are going wrong.

#85 True Friend Essay

afternoon he watched television and talked on the phone with his friends. Still, he preferred to study after eight o'clock at night, but this was the time his friends wanted to go out. Unfortunately, he would hardly ever do his homework; thus, his essays were also late. After Nobin's first year at the school, his grades seemed to get worse and worse. What do you think would happen if Elizabeth would have to work and pay her own tuition? Do you think it would change her behavior toward school? Finally, I concluded that students who pay their own tuition are more likely to do well in school.

First and most importantly, I think it is proper time management that effects good performance in school. Let us look at the students who do not have to pay their own tuition, so they do not have to work. Because they have a lot of free time after school, they think that there is enough time to do their homework later, so they do not even bother to think about it and plan when to do it. For example, think about the time that some of them waste by watching their favorite TV shows, or by playing games on the Internet. This time could be used for doing math problems or for starting to write an essay, which could be due in a week. These students tend to put things off for later. On the other hand, because students who work while going to school have a limited time for studying and doing homework, they have to plan their time for the future, so they do not put themselves behind other classmates. They see time as time blocks, so they plan their work ahead. For example, if they know that they are working tomorrow, and their homework is due in three days, most likely they would start doing their homework today because they realize that tomorrow they will be too tired after work to do their homework. Indeed, time for work and school can be hard to juggle, but it helps students organize their time, so there is enough time to do the assigned homework or to study. In fact, they are paying for school with their own money; thus, they do not want to waste the opportunity to do well in school.A friend who helps out when we are in trouble is a true friend—unlike others who disappear when trouble arises.

Friends are one of most important things in our lives. Unfortunately we have a few real friends. I have a lot of friends- girls and boys. It doesn't matter what they are. They have to be my real friends. He or she has to be good and reliable. It doesn't matter how he or she looks like. He or she has to be responsible and helpful. I think these people are one of the best people in the world. If she or he is attractive and sensitive it will be wonderful! Just like me! But we have to be good with our friends who haven't got character like this. Every man has features which he doesn't like. We shouldn't forget that we are people, too. I'm sure that if we are good with people we will have more and better friends.

I have a friend named Nobin Jacob who went to the High School –India (September 18, 2001) . He did not have to work because he parents paid for her school and all his expenses. All he had to worry about was studying and doing his homework. Nevertheless, instead of using the time wisely, he would always put off doing his schoolwork by saying that there is enough time to do it later. Moreover, almost every

#84 Allah

Rasulullah itu adalah orang yang sangat dicintai oleh para sahabatnya, umumnya para sahabat mencintai Rasulullah Saw, walau ada sebagian sahabat yang diam-diam membenci Rasulullah. Tetapi mayoritas sahabat itu sangat mencintai Rasulullah Saw.

Pernah suatu malam Rasulullah mendengar suara beberapa orang di luar kamarnya, Rasulullah menegur: “Kenapa kalian berkumpul di sini?” lalu mereka menjawab: “Ya Rasulullah, kami tidak bisa tidur khawatir ketika kami tidur nanti, orang-orang kafir datang dan membunuhmu.” Mereka sukarela menjadi satpam Rasulullah Saw, datang sendiri, tidak dibayar. Tetapi Rasulullah Saw mengatakan, “Tidak, Allah melindungi aku, pulanglah kamu ke tempat kamu masing-masing.”

Ada seorang pedagang minyak wangi, di Madinah. Setiap kali pergi ke pasar, dia singgah dulu ke rumah Rasulullah Saw, dia tunggu sampai Rasulullah keluar. Setelah Rasulullah keluar, dia hanya mengucapkan salam lalu memandang Rasulullah saja, setelah puas dia pergi. Suatu saat setelah dia ketemu Rasululllah dia pergi, lalu tak lama kemudian balik lagi dari pasar dan dia datang kepada Rasulullah Saw dan meminta izin, “Saya ingin melihat engkau ya Rasulullah, karena saya takut tidak bisa melihat engkau setelah ini.” Dan Rasulullah mengizinkannya.

Kemudian, setelah kejadian itu Rasulullah tidak pernah melihat lagi tukang minyak wangi itu. Disuruhnya sahabatnya pergi melihat, ternyata ia sudah meninggal dunia tidak lama setelah dia pergi dari pasan dan memandang wajah Rasulullah Saw itu. Lalu kata Rasulullah Saw: “Kecintaannya kepadaku akan menyelamatkan dia di hari akhirat.”

Ada lagi seorang sahabat Rasulullah bernama Abu Ayyub Al-Anshari. Ketika Rasulullah hijrah ke Madinah, beliau beristirahat dahulu di pinggiran kota menginap di rumah Abu Ayyub Al-Anshari. Rumahnya itu dua tingkat, Abu Ayyub dan istrinya di tingkat atas dan Rasulullah Saw di bawah. Pada malam hari Abu Ayub dan istrinya tidak bisa tidur karena mereka takut menggerakkan tubuhnya, semua terbujur seperti sebongkah kayu menahan dirinya untuk tidak bergerak. Mereka takut kalau bergerak, nanti debu-debu dari atas itu berjatuhan kepada Rasulullah. Setelah Rasulullah mengetahui hal itu, beliau sangat terharu lalu kepada Abu Ayub diajarkan sebuah doa sebagai penghargaan beliau atas cinta yang tulus dari Abu Ayub.

Dalam perang Uhud, ketika kaki Rasulullah terluka, ada seorang sahabat melihatnya lalu mengejar Rasulullah. Dia pegang kaki itu lalu dia bersihkan luka itu dengan jilatannya. Rasulullah kaget lalu berkata, “Lepaskan! Lepaskan!” Sahabat itu berkata: “Tidak Ya Rasulullah, aku tidak akan melepaskannya sampai luka ini kering!”

Ada lagi seorang sahabat, yang setelah Rasulullah meninggal dunia, membanggakan mulutnya yang tidak ada gigi lagi. Saat perang Uhud itu juga, Rasulullah cedera karena rantai pelindung kepalanya menusuk pipinya. Lalu seorang sahabat menarik rantai itu dengan giginya, tapi sebelum rantai itu keluar, seluruh giginya rontok. Dia bangga bahwa giginya itu berjatuhan karena membela Rasulullah yang dicintainya. Sehingga menjadi satu kebahagiaan tersendiri. Ini, sekali lagi masalah cinta, dan cinta itu selalu tidak wajar.

Ada satu contoh lagi kecintaan orang kepada Rasulullah Saw. Menjelang suatu peperangan, Rasulullah sedang membariskan pasukannya karena Rasulullah selalu merapikan barisan pasukannya. Ternyata ada seorang sahabat, mungkin karena perutnya terlalu besar, selalu perutnya itu berada di luar barisan. Kemudian Rasulullah lewat dan memukul perutnya itu agar dirapikan dengan barisan. Lalu sahabat itu memandang Rasulullah dan berkata: “Engkau diutus untuk menjadi rahmat bagi seluruh alam, kenapa kau sakiti perutku?” Lalu Rasulullah turun dari kudanya, dan menyerahkan alat pemukul itu, lalu berseru: “Pukullah aku! Sebagai qishas atas kesalahanku.” Kemudian orang itu berkata: “Tapi engkau pukul langsung kepada kulit perutku.” Lalu Rasulullah segera membuka pakaiannya, tiba-tiba sahabat itu memeluk Rasulullah dan mencium perutnya. Rasulullah kaget dan berkata: “Ada apa denganmu?” Sahabat itu menjawab: “Ya Rasulullah, genderang perang sudah ditabuh, mungkin ini adalah saat terakhir perjumpaanku denganmu. Saya ingin sebelum meninggal dunia, sempat mencium perutmu yang mulia.”

Dan sahabat itu kemudian gugur di medan perang setelah mencium perut Rasulullah Saw. Rupanya ini hanya strategi dia agar bisa mencium perut Rasulullah Saw.

Kelak, setelah Rasulullah meninggal dunia, kecintaan para sahabat itu diungkapkan dengan kerinduan yang luar biasa kepada Rasulullah Saw.

Bilal yang selalu adzan semasa hidup Rasulullah tidak mau beradzan lagi setelah wafat Rasulullah karena Bilal tidak sanggup mengucapkan “Asyhadu anna Muhammad Rasululah” karena ada kata-kata Muhammad di situ. Tapi karena desakan Sayyidah Fatimah yang saat itu rindu mendengar suara adzan Bilal, dan mengingatkan beliau akan ayahnya. Bilal akhirnya dengan berat hati mau beradzan. Saat itu waktu Subuh, dan ketika Bilal sampai pada kalimat Asyhadu anna Muhammad Rasulullah, Bilal tidak sanggup meneruskannya, dia berhenti dan menangis terisak-isak. Dia turun dari mimbar dan minta izin pada Sayyidah Fatimah untuk tidak lagi membaca adzan karena tidak sanggup menyelesaikannya hingga akhir. Ketika Bilal berhenti saat adzan itu, seluruh Madinah berguncang karena tangisan kerinduan akan Rasulullah Saw.

Mengapa Rasulullah dirindukan atau dicintai? Itu bukan hanya karena Allah SWT membuka hati mereka untuk rindu, tetapi karena akhlak Rasulullah yang menarik kecintaan mereka. Dan akhlak itu adalah Sunnah. Sekiranya kita mencontoh akhlak beliau ini, pasti kitapun akan dicintai oleh banyak manusia. Tentu tidak oleh semua manusia, karena Rasulullah juga tidak dicintai oleh sem ua manusia, tidak dicintai oleh semua sahabat dan tidak dicintai oleh semua makhluk. Tapi sekiranya kita mempraktekkan akhlak Rasulullah itu dalam pergaulannya dengan orang banyak, pasti kitapun akan menjadi manusia, yang dicintai oleh kebanyakan umat manusia.

#83 Rasulullah

Rasulullah itu adalah orang yang sangat dicintai oleh para sahabatnya, umumnya para sahabat mencintai Rasulullah Saw, walau ada sebagian sahabat yang diam-diam membenci Rasulullah. Tetapi mayoritas sahabat itu sangat mencintai Rasulullah Saw.

Pernah suatu malam Rasulullah mendengar suara beberapa orang di luar kamarnya, Rasulullah menegur: “Kenapa kalian berkumpul di sini?” lalu mereka menjawab: “Ya Rasulullah, kami tidak bisa tidur khawatir ketika kami tidur nanti, orang-orang kafir datang dan membunuhmu.” Mereka sukarela menjadi satpam Rasulullah Saw, datang sendiri, tidak dibayar. Tetapi Rasulullah Saw mengatakan, “Tidak, Allah melindungi aku, pulanglah kamu ke tempat kamu masing-masing.”

Ada seorang pedagang minyak wangi, di Madinah. Setiap kali pergi ke pasar, dia singgah dulu ke rumah Rasulullah Saw, dia tunggu sampai Rasulullah keluar. Setelah Rasulullah keluar, dia hanya mengucapkan salam lalu memandang Rasulullah saja, setelah puas dia pergi. Suatu saat setelah dia ketemu Rasululllah dia pergi, lalu tak lama kemudian balik lagi dari pasar dan dia datang kepada Rasulullah Saw dan meminta izin, “Saya ingin melihat engkau ya Rasulullah, karena saya takut tidak bisa melihat engkau setelah ini.” Dan Rasulullah mengizinkannya.

Kemudian, setelah kejadian itu Rasulullah tidak pernah melihat lagi tukang minyak wangi itu. Disuruhnya sahabatnya pergi melihat, ternyata ia sudah meninggal dunia tidak lama setelah dia pergi dari pasan dan memandang wajah Rasulullah Saw itu. Lalu kata Rasulullah Saw: “Kecintaannya kepadaku akan menyelamatkan dia di hari akhirat.”

Ada lagi seorang sahabat Rasulullah bernama Abu Ayyub Al-Anshari. Ketika Rasulullah hijrah ke Madinah, beliau beristirahat dahulu di pinggiran kota menginap di rumah Abu Ayyub Al-Anshari. Rumahnya itu dua tingkat, Abu Ayyub dan istrinya di tingkat atas dan Rasulullah Saw di bawah. Pada malam hari Abu Ayub dan istrinya tidak bisa tidur karena mereka takut menggerakkan tubuhnya, semua terbujur seperti sebongkah kayu menahan dirinya untuk tidak bergerak. Mereka takut kalau bergerak, nanti debu-debu dari atas itu berjatuhan kepada Rasulullah. Setelah Rasulullah mengetahui hal itu, beliau sangat terharu lalu kepada Abu Ayub diajarkan sebuah doa sebagai penghargaan beliau atas cinta yang tulus dari Abu Ayub.

Dalam perang Uhud, ketika kaki Rasulullah terluka, ada seorang sahabat melihatnya lalu mengejar Rasulullah. Dia pegang kaki itu lalu dia bersihkan luka itu dengan jilatannya. Rasulullah kaget lalu berkata, “Lepaskan! Lepaskan!” Sahabat itu berkata: “Tidak Ya Rasulullah, aku tidak akan melepaskannya sampai luka ini kering!”

Ada lagi seorang sahabat, yang setelah Rasulullah meninggal dunia, membanggakan mulutnya yang tidak ada gigi lagi. Saat perang Uhud itu juga, Rasulullah cedera karena rantai pelindung kepalanya menusuk pipinya. Lalu seorang sahabat menarik rantai itu dengan giginya, tapi sebelum rantai itu keluar, seluruh giginya rontok. Dia bangga bahwa giginya itu berjatuhan karena membela Rasulullah yang dicintainya. Sehingga menjadi satu kebahagiaan tersendiri. Ini, sekali lagi masalah cinta, dan cinta itu selalu tidak wajar.

Ada satu contoh lagi kecintaan orang kepada Rasulullah Saw. Menjelang suatu peperangan, Rasulullah sedang membariskan pasukannya karena Rasulullah selalu merapikan barisan pasukannya. Ternyata ada seorang sahabat, mungkin karena perutnya terlalu besar, selalu perutnya itu berada di luar barisan. Kemudian Rasulullah lewat dan memukul perutnya itu agar dirapikan dengan barisan. Lalu sahabat itu memandang Rasulullah dan berkata: “Engkau diutus untuk menjadi rahmat bagi seluruh alam, kenapa kau sakiti perutku?” Lalu Rasulullah turun dari kudanya, dan menyerahkan alat pemukul itu, lalu berseru: “Pukullah aku! Sebagai qishas atas kesalahanku.” Kemudian orang itu berkata: “Tapi engkau pukul langsung kepada kulit perutku.” Lalu Rasulullah segera membuka pakaiannya, tiba-tiba sahabat itu memeluk Rasulullah dan mencium perutnya. Rasulullah kaget dan berkata: “Ada apa denganmu?” Sahabat itu menjawab: “Ya Rasulullah, genderang perang sudah ditabuh, mungkin ini adalah saat terakhir perjumpaanku denganmu. Saya ingin sebelum meninggal dunia, sempat mencium perutmu yang mulia.”

Dan sahabat itu kemudian gugur di medan perang setelah mencium perut Rasulullah Saw. Rupanya ini hanya strategi dia agar bisa mencium perut Rasulullah Saw.

Kelak, setelah Rasulullah meninggal dunia, kecintaan para sahabat itu diungkapkan dengan kerinduan yang luar biasa kepada Rasulullah Saw.

Bilal yang selalu adzan semasa hidup Rasulullah tidak mau beradzan lagi setelah wafat Rasulullah karena Bilal tidak sanggup mengucapkan “Asyhadu anna Muhammad Rasululah” karena ada kata-kata Muhammad di situ. Tapi karena desakan Sayyidah Fatimah yang saat itu rindu mendengar suara adzan Bilal, dan mengingatkan beliau akan ayahnya. Bilal akhirnya dengan berat hati mau beradzan. Saat itu waktu Subuh, dan ketika Bilal sampai pada kalimat Asyhadu anna Muhammad Rasulullah, Bilal tidak sanggup meneruskannya, dia berhenti dan menangis terisak-isak. Dia turun dari mimbar dan minta izin pada Sayyidah Fatimah untuk tidak lagi membaca adzan karena tidak sanggup menyelesaikannya hingga akhir. Ketika Bilal berhenti saat adzan itu, seluruh Madinah berguncang karena tangisan kerinduan akan Rasulullah Saw.

Mengapa Rasulullah dirindukan atau dicintai? Itu bukan hanya karena Allah SWT membuka hati mereka untuk rindu, tetapi karena akhlak Rasulullah yang menarik kecintaan mereka. Dan akhlak itu adalah Sunnah. Sekiranya kita mencontoh akhlak beliau ini, pasti kitapun akan dicintai oleh banyak manusia. Tentu tidak oleh semua manusia, karena Rasulullah juga tidak dicintai oleh sem ua manusia, tidak dicintai oleh semua sahabat dan tidak dicintai oleh semua makhluk. Tapi sekiranya kita mempraktekkan akhlak Rasulullah itu dalam pergaulannya dengan orang banyak, pasti kitapun akan menjadi manusia, yang dicintai oleh kebanyakan umat manusia.